Not Today
A method you can listen to immediately and use by tonight.
A method you can listen to today and start using by tonight.
A simple plan for the moment your child's reaction panics or enrages you, so you don't end up yelling and apologizing again.
You'll trust your reactions in hard moments again.
You know the moment. Your kids are fighting (again). Your daughter rolls her eyes at you. Your son talks back. You're worn out from a long day and you haven't even started dinner. And suddenly, everything you "know" about parenting flies out the window and you're snapping at everyone, feeling hurt and discouraged that your family has this dynamic.
And then, the guilt. You wanted to model regulation, but instead modeled reactivity. Again.
I used to end up yelling every single night, sometime between school pickup and bedtime. I haven't done that since I listened to Not Today. I would seriously buy a Tshirt that said, "Not Today." It has changed me that much.
— Tracy, son age 10
Built with insights from a holistic child and family psychotherapist.
Instant. Yours forever. 14 day guarantee. Screenshot the PDF guide.
You told yourself you wouldn't yell today. You yelled. Now it's 9pm and you're feeling guilty or apologizing (again) before bedtime.
I know that. I lived in it for years.
I'm a highly sensitive person. I lost the first part of my life to an eating disorder and alcoholism. So I know firsthand that emotional regulation, and feeling comfortable inside our own skin, is one of the greatest gifts in life.
I longed to give that to my children. To help them grow into emotionally available, fully expressed, confident adults. To help them learn to sit with hard emotions and feel comfortable with discomfort, challenge, and growth.
But I found myself reacting. Yelling because my 5 year old lost control, or hit his brother. Or god forbid, spoke rudely to me.
Parenting reveals wounds that still need to be healed.
The tenderhearted mother inside of you may feel crushed, unappreciated, and then snap.
Or you cave. Overextend, and then resent it.
Or you withdraw, which creates uncertainty in our children.
Cave. Snap. Withdraw.
You are meant to feel your children, but you don't have to drown in them.
You can ride the wave of emotion, and not drown in it.
Every book tells you to stay calm.
But you've found that impossible in the chaos of life. You're a caring mother who feels the full depth of the human experience, including frustration and hurt and anger, but you can still lead yourself through hard moments.
You need something else. For me, and countless other mothers, this method has been what they needed.
You'll find the truth about what emotional regulation is and how to actually access it, with your brain and your body, when your household feels like it's imploding.
It starts with 90 seconds. That's the length of the emotional wave, discovered by neuroscientist Jill Bolte Taylor.
I'll guide you with what to do inside those 90 seconds, so you can access a different outcome.
It's how and why you'll stop handing your emotions over to a child with a developing brain.
Not today.
Every time somebody teaches you to pause, to breathe, to not react, some part of you may hear I'm letting them get away with it.
I built this for you, with insights from a holistic child and family psychotherapist, because it's what actually helped me stop snapping, yelling, or withdrawing, without feeling like a doormat, or like I was allowing that behavior from my children.
Not reacting is not the same as leading.
That's why there are two parts. Not Today: The Mother Within is for you. The ABCs are the plan to hold high expectations while offering high support. A new way to find lasting change for both of you. You can hold a very high expectation and hold it warmly.
You deserve to parent without guilt. You deserve support, and you have more inner strength than you realize. You deserve to feel like your most empowered self, even during moments of conflict.
Today, my son rolled his eyes at me. But I knew exactly why, and what to do. This program has so much packed into two short audios. I have listened many times because Emily's voice grounds me and soothes me. I feel like a better mom because I know what to do.
— Jenni, son age 9
Instant. Yours forever. 14 day guarantee. Screenshot the PDF guide.
When you work with a therapist over time, one of the most valuable things you receive is a lightbulb moment.
And often, those insights come one session at a time.
Not Today is not therapy. But it does gather psychotherapist-informed insights into a simple emotional journey you can use right away, so you can stop waiting months to start seeing the moment differently.
Book a 1:1 session with Emily if you want to go deeper.
You'll find leadership inside yourself you didn't know you had, and may not have realized was missing.
You'll have a fallback plan for when words are flying and behavior has already gone off the rails. A way to exit a tense moment without casting blame on anyone.
You'll know what to say and do in hard moments, and how and when to return to your child later to troubleshoot difficult behavior together.
You'll have a plan.
A: Acknowledge. B: Boundaries with leadership. C: Coach with compassion.
You'll know how to help your child discover what was underneath the big reaction, and build more emotional and behavioral connection.
You'll know how to create more honesty and connection with your child, even after a big fallout.
You'll know how to uplift them.
A 6 minute grounding meditation for busy moms, to help you stop reacting.
To identify the source of your reactions, and support that part of you, so you can lead differently.
For quick reference, so you always have your plan nearby.
1 month of email support, sent straight to your inbox so you never feel behind. Honest stories straight from my home, so you stop judging yourself and peek inside the messy process of honest, conscious parenting.
Plus deeper insight from the psychotherapist whose work informed the framework, insight that will bring you ease as it shifts your perspective on what your child may be experiencing, or on the things that normally trigger us.
Understanding this dynamic can drastically improve your children's relationship.
I rely on different aspects of this method all the time. At least once or twice a day I mentally return to one of the tools Emily teaches in this framework. But my favorite tool is the 6 minute grounding meditation. I had no idea how reactive I was simply because I was scattered. It's so fast I listen every morning and at school pickup and I feel so much better. I love Emily and her methods and her honesty so much. She feels like a close friend.
— Erin, son age 7
I'm not a psychologist.
I'm a channel and a healer. That's my work. I work with endless women who want to break the cycle of reacting, in their homes, their relationships, their parenting, their work.
Because parenting is just the portal to our best selves.
By looking at our triggers, our wounds, our reactions, we can reach for leadership and growth again and again.
It is the greatest invitation. The greatest challenge. The greatest gift, an invitation to healing.
Instant. Yours forever. 14 day guarantee. Screenshot the PDF guide.
Listen to both. Screenshot the PDF guide. Listen to the grounding meditation and create your capacity phrase. Try the method for 2 weeks when conflict arises.
If nothing changed inside of you or inside of your household, email me inside 14 days and I'll refund the whole $97. Keep everything.
You may have spent money before on a product or a course you never had time to access. I made this differently, for busy mothers. Everything you need will be sent directly to you, for easy consumption and integration. Nothing to log into.
The goal is not perfection. The goal is full aliveness.
Witnessing yourself, as the tenderhearted mother you are, doing your best but often feeling unseen and unappreciated, and having trouble not snapping.
Not letting the hurt run the show.
The goal is depth and connection over and over. The goal is beautiful authenticity, and meaningful conversation and change in the way your home responds to intense emotion.
My daughter's whining used to make my skin crawl. I'm embarrassed to admit that I used to get really annoyed and sometimes sarcastic with her when she would whine. Now I understand my own reaction better, and I know how to get through that moment without being rude. I haven't been so hard on her anymore, and she is whining so much less because I know how to problem solve with her and also set expectations. I want her to speak up and assert herself, but not like that. I was never allowed to speak up. This program affected me more than I thought it would, for the better, in every area of my life. I hope that makes sense.
— Erica, daughter age 6
How is this course different?
This program uses neuroscience, emotional and energetic regulation, insights from a holistic child psychotherapist, and radical personal responsibility to help mothers find change within themselves, and parent differently. It does not emphasize "just staying calm" or ignoring behavior. It teaches you to actually reach for a different reaction inside yourself, and feel better, through specific tools that are easy and accessible.
Is this gentle parenting?
This is fully conscious parenting. This course does not advocate screaming or punishment. It advocates effective collaboration through parent-child coaching to create lasting change in your home without creating shame or withdrawal in your child.
Will you actually use it?
This course is fast enough for busy moms to listen and use today. The short grounding meditation is also fast enough to listen to, once or twice a day. I made it this way so you never feel behind in one more area of your life, and you never have to remember to log in anywhere. Everything you need to stay the course will be emailed directly to you.
If you don't try something new, and nothing changes, you may end up yelling, feeling guilty, overwhelmed, and continuing to react in moments of conflict.
There is a cost to our anger. There is also an incredible reward for our peace and leadership. Children who know how to express themselves, and trust themselves, during this very difficult time. Daughters who learn not to shrink their needs, because we are modeling for them. Sons who learn to stay with anger, but not let it run them. The change starts with you.
Something's going to happen tomorrow.
And you'll have a few seconds.
You can cave. You can snap. You can withdraw.
Or you can have a plan.
Not today.
Instant. Yours forever. 14 day guarantee. Screenshot the PDF guide.
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